Take this vow before you decide to date

[Cubanita]

agree . . .
. . . Not to undermine religious Jews for petty, non-Halachic reasons.
. . . Not to judge person based on his family or his background.
. . . To educate friends and relatives about these principles, and to constructively criticize their inappropriate “shtick”. This is the best way you can help them and spread the positive messages.
. . . To familiarize myself with the pertinent Halachos (lashon hara, hochacha, etc.)
. . . To give chizzuk to those who would prefer not to perpetuate the current Jewish Dating system.
. . . To emphasize the positive reasons for Jewish Dating, not the societal expectations.
. . . To become an active part of the solution, not passive part of the problem.