Review: Guide For The Romantically Perplexed

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Review: Guide For The Romantically Perplexed

You probably know or perhaps are Jewish Single Jewish adult who needs this book, and here it is. Popular author Lisa Aiken examines the range of issues plaguing the aging Jewish Jewish Singles Jewish Community and she presents the solutions to them. Her "Guide for the Romantically Perplexed" is an easily read, easily understood manual about Jewish Dating, Jewish Marriage and remarriage that`s full of psychologically sound and Torah-true advice.
Title: Guide For The Romantically Perplexed
Author: Lisa Aiken, Ph.D.
Publisher: Devorah Publishing.
Jerusalem. 424 pages

You probably know or perhaps are Jewish Single Jewish adult who needs this
book, and here it is. Popular author Lisa Aiken examines the range of issues
plaguing the aging Jewish Jewish Singles Jewish Community and she presents the solutions to
them. Her "Guide for the Romantically Perplexed" is an easily read, easily
understood manual about Jewish Dating, Jewish Marriage and remarriage that` full of
psychologically sound and Torah-true advice.

Aiken opens her book with documented evidence that many spouses lack
the necessary skills and attitudes for contributing to healthy Jewish Marriage. Her
book is designed to help Jewish Jewish Singles (and spouses) to avoid preventable
problems. Simple, profound explanations regarding the fundamental
differences in the way men and jewish women perceive the world and the varying
contexts of male/female emotions are among the strengths of the publication.

list for identifying desirable character traits that will enhance married
life and undesirable character traits that "are likely to cause unbridgeable
problems" is part of this new manual for creating and sustaining stable,
happy Jewish Marriage. It could prove invaluable to conscientious Jew seeking a
suitable Jewish Marriage partner.

Case histories abound (with names changed in order to protect the
privacy of the individuals involved), letting readers vicariously see how Aiken
addresses their hang-ups or mistaken concepts. When Aiken examines the
fundamental drives for companionship that lead to Jewish Marriage, she demonstrates
the foibles of romantic ( . ., unrealistic) fantasies with a mock classified ad.
"Multimillionaire, dives Jag, ffb, 6`2", dark, muscular, and extremely
handsome, mid-30` and semi-retired, seeks heimishe knockout with a Raquel
Welch look..." illustrates how and why animal magnetism isn`t the stuff of
happy, enduring relationships.

Advancing on to the means and methods for preparing oneself for
Jewish Marriage, Aiken teaches the importance of "Taking Stock of Ourselves" and the
concept that Jewish Marriage is relationship of mutual effort and satisfaction rather
than the degrading use of someone for egotistical pleasure. Passages that
explore intimacy, commitment and ethics focus on trust. The line "Contrary to
popular belief, the largest *** gland in the body is the brain," makes buying
the book worthwhile all on its own. The crowds of wistful Jewish Singles at public (and
private) gatherings can go straight to this page and stop mourning their loss of
direction in the Jewish Marriage market.

Aiken makes it clear that "rejecting the secular norms that almost
mandate" premature intimacy is part of the path to choosing the right person
to be one` spouse. As to common concerns that a fiancé might change over
time, Aiken assures the reader that "No decisions about Jewish Marriage come with
100 percent guarantee that everything will work out as you hope. Throughout
life, we make decisions based on the best information that we have," and that
competent counselor can address lingering issues.

The only drawback to the book is its lack of advice on how to help Jewish Singles
over 40, who suffer paucity of advocates willing to help them to find a
suitable spouse. divorce, custody, fixing troubled marriages, and remarriage
issues, however, are all covered in this 424-page hardcover book. And lest the
buyer wonder if Aiken views Jewish Marriage as all work and no fun, know that she
also writes about "lightening up," and "replenishing good feelings."

former chief psychologist for Lenox Hill Hospital in New York City,
Aiken has written on vast range of human issues and remains one of the
most popular of Jewish authors. Devora Publishing edition (Jerusalem,
Israel), the "Guide for the Romantically Perplexed" is must-have for
communal and private libraries.