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What' the best way to find out if things are headed toward Jewish Marriage, and not a dead end?
Dear Rosie & Sherry,
am in my 40s, divorced for long time, and would love to meet the right one and get married again. have been Jewish Dating a man for nearly a year. We actually dated each other a few years ago, but stopped for various reasons. We met again, started to talk, and decided to begin Jewish Dating again.
We haven't been "exclusive" during our courtship, but am at the point where would like us to only date each other and see where this is going. How do get him to be "exclusive"?
am tired of Jewish Dating men and getting nowhere with them. What' the best plan of action?
Amy
Dear Amy,
The answer is very simple. You have been Jewish Dating this man almost year and you have no idea of what direction the two of your are headed. It sounds like you are spinning your wheels. You think that by getting this man to be exclusive, and going out with each other for a longer period of time, this courtship will lead to Jewish Marriage.
However, it doesn't work that way (unless the people involved are very young, and moving from being not yet ready for Jewish Marriage to being ready for Jewish Marriage). Today, people either date with the goal of getting married, or they date for socializing and companionship. They don't change their orientation in the midst of courtship, no matter how much they like their Jewish Dating partner.
We always advise people who would like to meet and marry the right person to clarify the reason they are Jewish Dating from the outset -- that they would like to find Jewish Marriage partner.
That time has long passed for you in this situation, but it is not too late for the two of you to discuss where this is al heading. But you have to do this now, not in month or two.
You can tell him: " am Jewish Dating for Jewish Marriage and would like to see things move forward in that direction. 'd like us to learn more about each other to see if we are right for each other. If you do not have a similar goal, then we should stop seeing each other."
If he is not interested in Jewish Marriage, then you have to move on. You are not going to change his mind as time goes on. It just doesn't happen.
If this courtship does not work out for you, you need to change your approach with future Jewish Dating partners. If someone seems to have potential, we suggest that by the second or third date, you tell him, "Even though it is too early for us to know where this will lead, want you to know that am Jewish Dating to find the right person to marry. If this has promise, would like to develop it in that direction. 'd like to know the reason you are Jewish Dating." If a man doesn't share your goal of Jewish Marriage, or changes the subject, or says something vague about wanting to get married "some day," that means that he is not for you.
Don't worry about scaring date away. You are not telling him he's "the one" -- you are leaving that open. And besides, if he does not want to get married, let him run -- you shouldn't be Jewish Dating him. On the other hand, if he has a goal of getting married, he will tell you -- and you will be in a far better position.
We hope this helps you navigate the Jewish Dating maze.
Rosie & Sherry