Seperation Advice

[openheart]

Is seperation conducive to helping marrage work?

How do you set guidelines for handling seperation?

How long should seperation be?

My wife wants to seperate and actually think it' not a bad idea. We both say that divorce is a last option--so how do we set up seperation so it will help us stay married?

'm looking more for resorces and people who have been there rhan answers as 'm sure every case is different and to really give advice you'd need to know details. Where do find info about jewish orthodox seperation?

[admin]

Where are you located?
In essence think Seperation leads to divorce. Stay to-get-her and try counseling.

It all depends--are you looking to stay married or not. If you two don't want to be married, or are unwilling to invest the time and effort in developing loving relationship, then separate.

If you value your Jewish Marriage, separation will lead ONLY to divorce. separation is NOT Jewish value (nor is it family value.)

[Cubanita]

In my humble opinion, when spouse asks their significant other for “separation”, there is something behind that particular word.

It means, “at this moment, do not want to have nor share responsibilities, that of which is wife’s /husband's obligations.”

Speaking from statistics, Separation does lead to divorce, more often than not.

Separation leads to unfaithfulness
Separation leads to lack of respect (for your still Wedded wife/husband)
Separation is essentially form of "running away from your problems"

In fact separation is one of the grounds used for divorce. ( won’t get into deep details with that)


Either you two are really open minded about you relationship, or…
Or it is just funny that while many couples would find separation, traumatic/devastating event, you find it to be “not a bad idea.” Hmm… very interesting.